Anxiety is not a flaw or a weakness. It is the mind trying to protect us. But when the alarm system never turns off, the noise of it can drown out everything else: joy, connection, presence, and the quiet sense that we are okay.
We live in an era that generates anxiety faster than we can process it. The pressure to perform, to keep up, to be certain in an uncertain world are not personal failures. They are responses to real conditions.
Dr. Feit works with anxiety not as something to eliminate but as something to understand. When we get curious about what our anxiety is trying to tell us, we stop fighting ourselves and start listening.
The goal is not a life without fear. It is a life where fear no longer makes all the decisions.
Anxiety is not the enemy. It is an overprotective friend we need to learn to gently disagree with.
-- Dr. Alison Feit
Reflections on anxiety
March 2025
When the Worry Never Stops
On the difference between productive concern and the kind of anxiety that loops endlessly, going nowhere.
Read on SubstackJanuary 2025
The Body Keeps the Score
How our schedules reflect our anxiety, and what it means to build a life with more room to breathe.
Read on SubstackNovember 2024
Certainty Is Overrated
A case for learning to tolerate not knowing, and why the pursuit of certainty often makes things worse.
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